… and parallels with my healing journey through chronic pain

In the last few months I’ve felt called to pull back from the depths of the self improvement world.

I was starting to notice a stark & uncomfortably familiar parallel between my inner state of wellbeing and now and 10 years ago when I was deeply intrenched in my journey in healing chronic pain …

PAIN.

This was the familiar theme.

Also a familiar focus.

Today, another layer deep of a lightbulb moment illuminated the current state of my subconscious.

Basically, even though I learned over 10 years ago, that the way through healing pain is NOT by focusing on pain at all – it’s by focusing on all of the other marvellous sensations & experiences & GOODNESS that is currently present in my body (without ignoring the pain – just putting it into perspective).

But here I am again.

I’m working through my “limiting beliefs” around money & love & security.

I’m working through the thought patterns that “no longer serve me”.

I’m working though my “money mindset” and all sorts of other crap.

And honestly I only now just realized that it’s just that – CRAP.

AND … in attempts to “release the story” around this crap, I’m actually just rewriting a different and more compelling story around my crap.

The more I “work” on my limiting beliefs, the more they seem to perpetuate & amplify in all of my existence!

The irony is not lost on me.

Here I am again trying to solve the pain problem by focusing on the PAIN.

“Working” on the pain, “healing” the pain … and my focus is on pain! Constant pain!

No wonder I feel like shit!

The Universe has a sense of humour when we learn things.

It’s like “You think you REALLY know this concept? Well here’s Level 7 … have fun! Lol!”

The exciting thing though in this realization is: I’ve been here before! AND … I know my way through!

Here are a few things I’m calling back into my attention & reminding myself about … I thought I’d share them with you …

1. There’s no such thing as perfect alignment and you don’t need it anyway (well not in the way you think you do – you’re already DESIGNED perfectly – there is nothing to “improve” upon). Phew! What a RELIEF, right?! No more striving for unattainable perfection.
2. There’s nothing wrong with pain. Or having “limiting beliefs” or whatever. You can feel fucking amazing AND be with contraction or pain or tension or whatever … AND that’s actually how the pain moves through. Tricky right? But also, I take great comfort in this knowing.
3. What feels GOOD right now? And can I just stay with that goodness & lean into it a little right now? So this little concept is basically the Cole’s Notes version of the Alexander Technique. Where in my body feels pretty good right now? Maybe it’s my cheeks, or my toes. I’ve recently starting playing with this concept in other areas of my life – for example: what’s a moment where my interaction with money feels good right now?
4. BONUS: You actually don’t need to listen to anyone else but YOU.

YOU and you alone are the ruler of your own dominion. You and you alone are the keeper of the deep knowledge of what is best for you and what works for you!

Never forget this!

When you are seeking consultation & expertise in coaches, health care practitioners, healers, accountants, or ANYONE … YOU are the expert of YOU.

If something or someone doesn’t feel resonant or if they do, but then some of the things they say, do, or council don’t feel resonant … be open, but also LISTEN to your deepest of deep gut – she knows.

YOU know.

Trust yourself.

You already have EVERYTHING you need.

Trust in that.

Trust in yourself.